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~Reclaiming our bodies 🌙⁣ ⁣ From such a you

~Reclaiming our bodies 🌙⁣
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From such a young age, we are taught our bodies don’t belong to us...⁣
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“Don’t wear that it’s not fair on the male teachers/students”⁣
“You’re going out wearing 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭?”⁣
People honking their horns, commenting on what we are wearing, our weight, our body hair, making sure we keep our periods private because they’re gross and uncomfortable for others.... everything. ⁣
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This all teachers us that our bodies do not belong to us, they are not for us to cherish and enjoy and love they’re meant for someone else’s acceptance, enjoyment, arousal, comfort. ⁣
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But our bodies do not belong to anyone but us. We should get to choose what we do with them, how we express them and move them and nourish them with. Soo let’s reclaim our bodies as our own 👸⁣
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What’s one thing you love about your body, that’s just for you 🦋?

🙅‍♀️ I’m breaking up with Rom-Coms 😅

🙅‍♀️ I’m breaking up with Rom-Coms 😅⁣
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Ok maybe a lil dramatic for someone who loves a cheeky rom-com and a tub of ice cream 🍦 but for real, romantic films actually conditions us into having such unhealthy relationships....⁣
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If you really think about the story lines they're almost always a woman who falls madly in love with someone who usually treats her like shit. She end up “giving it all up for love” and she’s usually there just to be an emotional support for the man to lean on. ⁣
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alsooo a lot of these films use the narrative of her “not being like other women” which is code for this character was created by a man for a man and doesn’t actually reflect real, complex, multifaceted women. ⁣
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Growing up watching all this crap gave me such romanticised expectations of relationships as well as conditioning me to accept being treated badly in the name of love. It gives us the idea that we are meant to “fix” our partners and yes, while supporting each other in relationships is so so important it isn’t your job to fix them. ⁣
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So, while I’m not saying I’m never gonna watch another one again, it’s just about being mindful of the information we are absorbing and how this could be effecting our relations, wellbeing, and self-esteem.

And also, the sex scenes are always so damn unrealistic too, like come on 🙄😂

We have inner work to do. If you’re white you ha

We have inner work to do. If you’re white you have racism ingrained into you due to the system and society you grew up in. It may not be explicit but it’s there implicitly. Right now donating, signing petitions, spreading awareness and protesting is important. However if we don’t do the work to dismantle the racism and white supremacy within us the change will be short lived. We need to educate ourselves, listen, stay angry, learn from the mistakes we will inevitably make, acknowledge and work on changing our mindset around race, call people out, educate our children, elevate the voices, talents and stories of Black people. We need to use our white privilege to make the change.

Boy oh boy did I have a life changing realisation

Boy oh boy did I have a life changing realisation this past week 😅⁣
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we are becoming more aware that one size does not fit all when it comes to different people but one thing I’ve learned recently is that one size doesn’t fit all within a person either.⁣
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Moment by moment, day by day, are needs change and we can’t box ourselves into doing the exact same thing every.single.day!⁣
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Sure, routines and discipline are necessary tools to have in order to progress and learn and grow but having such a rigid and none negotiable routine is actually a disservice to yourself and your body.⁣
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Now I’m not saying throw all of your schedules outta the window but I am encouraging you to listen to what your body wants and needs and craves. So if it’s leg day but your body is like dude I just wonna shake ma booty to some music listen to it and turn your leg day into a damn dance party! ⁣
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It seems weird but you’ll find you actually make more progress and become more in tune with yourself if you... well listen to yourself🦋

6 examples of healthy boundaries without apologisi

6 examples of healthy boundaries without apologising...⁣
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Boundaries can be so tricky because often we are not taught how to do this, in fact we are conditioned into the opposite.⁣
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- If you often feel responsible for the emotions and feelings of others⁣
- If you struggle to say no and find yourself doing things you don’t want to⁣
- If you feel drained after interactions with certain people⁣
This could be because you aren’t creating the boundaries you deserve to protect yourself.⁣
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we can be made to feel so guilty and it can be a challenging thing to do when we first start to set our own boundaries and carve time for ourselves but it is so so incredibly essential for our wellbeing...⁣
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So if you often find yourself compromising on your own needs here are some examples of healthy boundaries:⁣
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✨ Thank you for inviting me, but tonight I really want to take time for myself ⁣
✨ I appreciate you are passionate about this, but i don’t feel comfortable talking about this with you (right now) ⁣
✨ I love having you around, but I’m tired after work please can we re-arrange?⁣
✨ I know you are trying to be supportive but I need the space to process this myself⁣
✨ I value your opinion but this is something I need to decide for myself
✨ It is ok that you are angry (hurt, sad, frustrated) but that doesn’t mean you can shout at me
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this list is obviously no where near exhaustive but i just wanted to share some examples in the hope that it can help even the tiniest bit on a journey towards better boundaries ♥️ ⁣
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✨ My biggest pet peeve about manifestation...⁣

✨ My biggest pet peeve about manifestation...⁣
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i see this 𝐚𝐥𝐥 the time and it does my head in. ⁣
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When people claim that you can manifest what you want by simply creating a vision board n waitin for it to come along 🤦‍♀️⁣
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Don’t get me wrong, you’ve gotta get super clear and vision boards do help but you can’t just create one and then expect the whole world to shift...⁣
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I like to flow in manifestation that draws on the energies of the masculine and the feminine 🧚🏼.⁣
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Plant the seed of what it is that you want to manifest into your life, get clear on it (hi vision boards). Then water that seed with action, nurture it, align to be the type of person who has it, act as if it is already on its way to you, then here’s the magic...⁣
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Trust. Embrace the fact that the journey there may not look how you think it will and that the end result may not be what you expected but trust. Trust that this is the perfect manifestation of your dream and it will arrive exactly when it is meant to. ⁣
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What are you trying to manifest? 👽⁣
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⁣P.s i apologise for the dirty mirror 🤓

🌻🦋 science suggests this is one of the 𝐛𝐞𝐬𝐭 𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐠𝐬 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐜𝐚𝐧 𝐝𝐨 𝐭𝐨 𝐢𝐦𝐩𝐫𝐨𝐯𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐦𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐚𝐥 𝐰𝐞𝐥𝐥𝐛𝐞𝐢𝐧𝐠.... ⁣
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Especially during these difficult and unusual times you might be feeling less like you’re thriving and more like you’re surviving.⁣
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Figuring out how to deal with this new way of life and all of the emotional and mental obstacles that comes with it can be draining and leave little mental space to focus on improving happiness and wellbeing...⁣
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but this simple yet powerful exercise can truly help you feel happier and less depressed for up to a month after doing it 🥳.⁣
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Here’s what you’ve gotta do...⁣
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🧠 Close your eyes and imagine the face of someone who has done or said something that changed your life for the better, but who you never properly thanked. (It has to be someone who is alive and you could video call like next week or something 👩🏽‍🤝‍👨🏼)⁣
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✍🏽 Now write a gratitude letter (like an actual pen and paper letter) to this person being super specific on what it was they did and how they positively impacted your life. ⁣
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☀️ Now reach out to that person and arrange a time where you can meet/video call but be kinda vague on what it’s about (it’s more fun when it’s a surprise) ⁣
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🗣 When you call/meet them read them the letter that you wrote. Notice theirs and your own reactions and ask them not to interrupt until you’ve finished reading it completely.⁣
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🥰 When you’ve finished you can both discuss how it feels together.⁣
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👽 Then relish in the happiness.⁣

How dare you ⁣ sit with your legs open ⁣ talk

How dare you ⁣
sit with your legs open ⁣
talk too loudly ⁣
dream of things that have no place⁣
residing in a women’s home ⁣
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How dare you ⁣
scream of your beauty ⁣
the unapologetic need ⁣
to fill your brain and your mind
with the knowledge denied to those before ⁣
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How dare you ⁣
reject the image ⁣
the predetermined way in which we should ⁣
look and feel and be ⁣
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How dare you ⁣
stand up for yourself ⁣
demand respect⁣
pleasure⁣
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Rise ⁣
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How dare you⁣
Be the women you were born to be ⁣👸🏼

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